Same-Sex Love Spells

Same-sex love spells are love work for gay, lesbian, bisexual and queer relationships: getting an ex back, binding a partner who has drifted, asking for commitment, or drawing new love. Baba Ali Musa performs them with the same rituals, materials and care as any other love work, because love between two people is the same work whoever they are. What does change is the attention paid to the pressures same-sex couples often face, such as family disapproval or hiding a relationship, which the reading takes into account. The reading is free, you pay for materials only, and most clients see the first signs within 3–7 days. If you don’t, you get a full refund.

Love is the same work

A candle carved with two names does not ask whose names they are. The cords, the honey and the moon do the same work for two women, two men, or any couple. Every service on this site is open to LGBTQ+ clients, and the choice of ritual follows your situation, not your identity.

Pressures that often come up

• Family disapproval, which can pull a partner away or make them hide the relationship.
• A partner not yet out, who pulls back when the relationship feels too visible.
• A smaller dating pool, which makes a lost relationship feel harder to replace.
• Past partners who remain in the same social circle.

Where family pressure is part of the picture, clearing interference often comes first.

Work same-sex clients ask for most

• Getting an ex back after a breakup
• Binding a partner who has gone cold
• Commitment or marriage work
• Attraction for new love

“Two hearts asking to be joined. That is all I need to know.”Baba Ali Musa

How Baba Ali works

Every case begins with a free, private reading. You describe your situation in your own words. Baba Ali reads the bond and the pressures around it, and recommends the work that fits. The ritual is performed at the altar and tracked in your private case tracker, and aftercare notes follow.

Privacy matters to everyone, and especially to anyone not out to everyone in their life. Your request is encrypted, never shared, and billed under a discreet name.

What you provide

• Your first name and date of birth
• Your partner’s or ex’s first name
• What happened, in your own words

What results look like

The same as any love work: renewed contact, warmth returning, a partner more present, commitment discussed.

Most clients see the first signs within 3–7 days. If you don’t, you get a full refund.

What this work will not do

Who this work helps

Same-sex love work helps gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and queer clients in every kind of love situation: a partner who left, a relationship worn down by outside pressure, a partner who will not commit, a marriage in a hard season, or a single person hoping to meet someone serious. It also helps couples where one partner is not out and the relationship lives partly in hiding, which brings its own strain.

Signs this work could help your relationship

• Your partner pulled away after family, friends or community pressure.
• Fear of being seen together is hurting the relationship.
• An ex is back in the same small friend group and things feel tangled.
• Your partner loves you but hesitates to commit or marry.
• You have been single a long time and feel your dating world is too small.

Privacy when someone is not out

For many LGBTQ+ clients, privacy is a matter of safety, work or family. Your request is encrypted when it arrives, only Baba Ali can open it, and it is deleted automatically after 12 months, or instantly from your case tracker. Nothing about your case is ever published. You choose how and when you are contacted. The work itself never pushes anyone to come out before they are ready, and it is never used to expose anyone’s identity.

Traditions and queer love

African diaspora traditions have often made room for LGBTQ+ people even when the societies around them did not. In Haitian Vodou, Erzulie Dantor, the fierce, protective mother among the Erzulie spirits, is associated with protecting the marginalized, including masisi and transgender women (Erzulie Dantor). Baba Ali’s practice comes from a Senegalese lineage and does not claim Vodou, but it shares the conviction that sincere love is worthy of prayer, whoever feels it.

Aftercare for same-sex couples

Your aftercare notes are written for your case. A few points come up often: keep the work private, especially if your partner is not out; avoid drawing mutual friends into the situation; be patient with a partner facing family pressure; and do not ask them to choose between you and their family in the first days after contact returns. Look after your own support network too. Chosen family matters. The aftercare guide covers the first 21 days.

A week-by-week picture

Before the ritual

You share what happened and receive an honest reading, usually within a day or two, including when the answer is that a different kind of work would suit you better.

The first week

Early signs tend to be small: a message after silence, a softer tone, a partner standing up for the relationship a little more than before, or less time spent with people who oppose it.

Weeks two to six

Contact becomes more regular and closeness returns. If outside pressure is strong, this stage may take longer, and clearing work may be added.

Situations Baba Ali sees most

General patterns from consultations, not client stories:

• The partner who panicked. A relationship is discovered by family, and the partner who is not out ends it to avoid a confrontation. The bond is still strong; fear drove the breakup.
• The small-world breakup. An ex stays in the same friend group, sometimes with a new partner, and every gathering reopens the wound.
• The hesitant partner. A long relationship where one partner wants marriage and the other carries fear from a time when marriage felt impossible.
• The long search. A single client in a smaller town who wants a serious partner and feels the dating pool is tiny.

Preparing for your consultation

Share your first name and date of birth, your partner’s first name if you choose, what has happened, and any family or safety concerns. You will never be asked to explain or justify who you are or who you love. The consultation guide has a checklist, and our post on love spells for same-sex couples goes deeper.

Coming out and relationships

Coming out, to family, at work or to oneself, can shake a relationship in unexpected ways. A partner who has just come out may need time and space; a partner who is not ready may feel pressure from one who is. Love work can support a couple through these seasons by strengthening patience and trust. It never sets a timeline for anyone’s coming out, and aftercare often focuses on communicating without ultimatums.

When a partner returns to a straight relationship

Some clients come after a partner left them for someone of another gender, sometimes under family pressure, sometimes in confusion about their own identity. These situations are painful and complicated. Love work can turn the partner’s attention back toward the bond if it is still real, and clearing can loosen outside pressure. It cannot decide who someone is. If the reading shows a settled choice, you will hear that honestly.

Couples who want to marry

Since the Supreme Court’s 2015 decision in Obergefell v. Hodges, same-sex couples have had the right to marry in every state (Obergefell v. Hodges). Some couples come when one partner is ready and the other hesitates, often because of family reactions or memories of a time when marriage felt impossible. Commitment work and marriage work focus on steadiness and trust so a hesitant partner can move forward freely.

The materials and what they mean

The materials are the same as for any love work: red candles for passion and return, pink for tenderness, white for clearing, honey or sugar for sweetness, cord for binding, and herbs such as rose and lavender. Figure candles come in every pairing, and practitioners choose what fits the two people involved. The ingredients glossary explains each.

Looking after yourself

LGBTQ+ people often face extra rejection and stress, and a breakup can reopen old wounds from family or community. Lean on chosen family and friends. If you are struggling, the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline is available to everyone by call or text, and the Trevor Project supports LGBTQ+ young people. Looking after yourself is part of the work, not separate from it.

Bisexual and pansexual clients

Bisexual and pansexual clients sometimes meet a particular kind of suspicion from partners: the fear that they will leave for someone of another gender, or that their attraction to others is a threat. That fear can put real strain on a relationship. Love work treats a bisexual person’s bond with their partner the same as any other bond, and it can help calm jealousy and build trust. Your identity is yours, and nobody at the altar will question it.

Trans and nonbinary clients

Use the name you go by, and the names your partner goes by. Legal names are not needed. Love work is done with the names people are known by in the relationship, and the materials and rituals are the same whatever anyone’s gender. If a relationship ended around a transition, whether yours or your partner’s, the reading will look at that with care and honesty.

Shared friend groups after a breakup

In many LGBTQ+ communities, exes stay in the same circles: the same friends, the same bars, the same group chats. That can make a breakup harder to get over and a reconciliation harder to keep private. Keep your plans to yourself while the work runs. Avoid asking mutual friends to pass messages. If you see your ex socially, be warm and relaxed rather than intense. Small, calm moments do more than big conversations in public.

Signs the work is moving

The signs are the same as in any love work: a warmer message, a softer tone, a partner or ex who seeks you out, family pressure easing, a hard conversation that goes better than expected. Share what you notice at your check-in, however small.

Same-sex love spells: questions

Last updated Sep 30, 2026