When someone comes between you and the person you love, whether a new partner, an old flame, a friend or a disapproving family member, love work focuses on clearing that interference: loosening the other person’s pull, turning your partner’s attention back toward you, and then strengthening the bond. In Baba Ali Musa’s practice this is never done by harming the third person. No curses, no illness, no revenge. Most clients see the first signs within 3–7 days. If they don’t, they get a full refund.
This post explains the forms interference takes, how clearing work is done, what you can do yourself to protect the relationship, and where the ethical lines are.
The many faces of interference
“Someone coming between you” can mean very different things:
- A new partner your ex started seeing after the breakup, often quickly.
- An affair partner during your relationship.
- An old flame who has reappeared.
- Friends who push your partner to leave, or who never liked you.
- Family who disapprove of the relationship, sometimes over religion, culture or class.
- A coworker whose closeness has become a problem.
- Old spiritual work by someone else, which some clients worry about after trying other casters.
Each needs a slightly different approach, which is why a reading comes first.
How interference pulls a person away
People are influenced by those around them. A new partner offers novelty and escape from hard feelings. Friends repeat the same story until it feels true. Family pressure makes a relationship feel costly. An old flame stirs nostalgia. None of this means your partner stopped loving you. Often, it means their attention and energy are being drawn elsewhere, while the bond with you is still there underneath.
Clearing work is aimed at that pull, so your partner can hear their own heart again.
How clearing work is done
In Baba Ali’s practice, clearing interference usually follows three steps.
1. Loosening the pull
The first work weakens the influence of the third party on your partner. The intention is not to hurt that person, but to lessen their hold on your partner’s attention and choices. Black and white candles are traditional for removal and blessing, used together. See Clear Third-Party Interference.
2. Turning attention back
Once the pull loosens, return or reconciliation work turns your partner’s attention back toward you and the bond you share.
3. Strengthening the bond
When contact and warmth return, binding helps the relationship hold so it is less vulnerable to future interference.
Each step is explained before it begins, with its materials and cost. There is no spell fee.
Clearing interference is about loosening a hold, never about hurting a person.
What is never done
This line is firm. Baba Ali does not perform work to:
- Harm, sicken, curse or ruin a rival or new partner.
- Break up a marriage or family out of spite.
- Punish your partner for leaving.
- Work in any situation involving abuse, protective orders, minors, or someone who has asked the client to stay away.
Anyone who offers to destroy your rival is showing you how they operate, and it is not a practitioner you should trust. Our post white magic vs black magic love spells explains why intent matters more than strength.
When your ex has a new partner
This is the most common form of interference Baba Ali sees. People often move quickly into a new relationship after a breakup, to avoid pain, prove they are fine, or feel wanted. Many of these rebounds are shallow. Some are not. The reading looks at how serious the new relationship is and how warm the old bond remains.
If the bond is still open, clearing and return work can help. If the new relationship is serious and happy, and your ex has clearly chosen it, you will hear that honestly. Our post how to get your ex back with a love spell covers the wider path.
When there is an affair
If your partner is having an affair while still with you, the situation is painful and complicated. Clearing work can loosen the affair partner’s pull. But trust will not return on its own. If your partner comes back to the relationship, honesty, transparency and time are needed, and many couples benefit from counseling. Be honest with yourself too: can you forgive, and has the affair truly ended?
When family is the problem
Family disapproval can end relationships that both partners want. Clearing work softens the influence of disapproving relatives without harming them. Alongside it, avoid direct fights with your partner’s family, which give them more reasons to push. Support your partner rather than asking them to choose between you and their family, especially early on. Many families soften over time when they see a relationship is steady and respectful.
When friends are pushing them away
Friends who took your ex’s side after a breakup can keep repeating the worst version of the story. Clearing work lessens their pull. On your side, do not attack them publicly or through mutual friends. Staying calm and gracious is one of the strongest ways to show them, and your ex, that their story about you is not the whole truth.
Why rebounds happen
A new relationship soon after a breakup often has little to do with the new person and a lot to do with the old pain. It can be a way to avoid grief, to feel wanted again, to prove to friends and to oneself that everything is fine, or simply to fill evenings that suddenly feel empty. Rebounds often feel intense at first and then flatten once the old feelings resurface. That is part of why clearing work can be effective: it loosens a pull that may already be shallower than it looks from the outside.
Old flames and nostalgia
Sometimes the person who comes between you is not new at all, but someone from your partner’s past: a first love, an ex who reappears after years, a “what if.” Nostalgia is powerful because it edits out the hard parts. Clearing work lessens that pull, and your steady presence in the here and now is the best counterweight to a memory. Avoid attacking the old flame or asking your partner to cut them off in anger; it tends to make the past look more attractive.
Work and closeness
Long hours together, shared stress and daily contact can make coworkers feel closer than partners at home. Not every close work friendship is a threat, and accusing your partner of an affair that is not happening damages trust. But if a work relationship is pulling your partner’s attention away, talk calmly about boundaries, make time for the two of you, and let clearing work loosen the pull. What matters most is that your relationship remains the place your partner feels most seen.
When the interference is online
Much interference now happens on phones: messages from exes, flirting on social media, dating apps that were never deleted. These are real threats to a relationship, and also easy places for suspicion to spiral. If you are worried, raise it directly and calmly rather than monitoring accounts in secret. Agree together on what feels respectful. Love work can strengthen the bond so these distractions lose their appeal, but agreements you both believe in do the everyday protecting.
Jealousy, yours and theirs
When someone comes between you, jealousy is natural. It can also become its own kind of interference, pushing your partner away with accusations, checking and anger. Notice your jealousy without letting it drive. Say what worries you once, clearly, and then let actions speak. If jealousy is taking over your days, talk to a counselor or someone you trust. A calmer you is a stronger defense for the relationship than any amount of watching.
How to talk to your partner about a third person
If you are still together and worried about someone, the way you raise it matters. A few phrases that tend to open conversations rather than close them:
- “I’ve been feeling a bit insecure lately and I want to talk about it with you.”
- “I notice you and [name] talk a lot, and it worries me. Can we talk about it?”
- “What do you need from me to feel close right now?”
Avoid opening with accusations, evidence gathered in secret, or ultimatums. The aim is to bring your partner closer, not to win an argument.
An illustration
This is a composite example, not a real client. After a long relationship ends, one partner starts dating a coworker within weeks, encouraged by friends who never liked the ex. The client is devastated and wants the new relationship destroyed. The reading shows the old bond is still warm and the new one shallow, but Baba Ali declines any work against the coworker. Instead, clearing loosens the friends’ influence and the new relationship’s pull, and return work follows. Within a few weeks, the ex reaches out to ask how the client is doing. The new relationship ends on its own.
What you can do to protect your relationship
Spiritual work helps, and so do everyday choices:
- Keep the warmth alive. Small, consistent kindness makes your relationship the place your partner wants to be.
- Talk openly about boundaries with friends, coworkers and exes, calmly and together.
- Avoid surveillance. Checking your partner’s phone tends to damage trust. According to the Pew Research Center, 34% of partnered adults have looked through a partner’s phone without their knowledge, yet seven in ten Americans say it is rarely or never acceptable.
- Address jealousy honestly. Say what worries you without accusing.
- Protect time together. Busy lives leave space for others to fill.
What not to do
- Do not contact, threaten or confront the third person.
- Do not post about them or about your partner online.
- Do not try to catch your partner out with traps or spying.
- Do not hire several casters at once.
- Do not make your partner choose in the heat of the moment.
Signs interference is clearing
- Your partner spends less time with the third person, or mentions them less.
- Tension appears in the new relationship.
- Disapproving voices grow quieter or soften.
- Your partner reaches out to you, or becomes warmer.
- You feel calmer and less consumed by jealousy.
Our post signs a love spell is working has the full list.
How long it takes
First signs usually come within 3–7 days. Clearing plus return work often takes a few weeks to a few months to fully unfold, depending on how strong the third person’s pull is. If you see no change within 3–7 days, you get a full refund under the Refund Policy.
If you were the one who strayed
Sometimes the client is the person whose attention wandered, and now wants their partner back after an affair or flirtation came to light. That takes courage to admit. Love work can soften your partner’s hurt enough to listen, but rebuilding trust depends on you: ending the other connection completely, being honest when asked, accepting that trust will take time, and not pressuring your partner to “get over it.” Healing work and counseling often matter as much as return work in these cases.
Looking after yourself while it plays out
Watching someone else hold your partner’s attention is painful, and it can consume your days. Protect your wellbeing. Limit how often you check their social media or ask mutual friends for news. Spend time with people who remind you of your worth. Keep your routines. If you notice yourself spiraling into anger or despair, talk to someone. You deserve care through this, whatever the outcome.
Rebuilding once the interference clears
When the third person fades and your partner turns back toward you, resist the urge to interrogate every detail of what happened. Some conversations will be needed, especially about trust and boundaries, but pace them. Focus first on reconnecting: time together, warmth, small kindnesses. Then talk about what each of you needs to feel secure going forward. Binding work can help the reconnection hold.
Why harming a rival backfires
It is human to wish harm on someone who seems to have taken your place. But work aimed at hurting a rival tends to backfire in practical ways, even setting spiritual beliefs aside. It keeps your attention on anger rather than on your own relationship. It can make your partner protective of the other person. And if your partner ever learned of it, it would confirm the worst things anyone has said about you. Clearing work aims only at loosening a hold, which leaves you free to be the warm, steady person your partner can return to.
Keeping mutual friends out of it
When a third person enters the picture, it is tempting to ask mutual friends for information, to recruit them to your side, or to send messages through them. That usually backfires. Friends get tired of carrying messages, stories get distorted, and your partner may feel watched. Let friends be friends to both of you. Share little, ask little, and let your own calm behavior speak.
When the other relationship is real
Sometimes the reading shows that the person who came between you is not a passing distraction but someone your partner has genuinely chosen. That is painful, and nobody should rush you through it. But pushing against a settled choice costs you time and peace. Healing work can help you let go with dignity, and the future can still hold love that chooses you freely.
Protecting a relationship you still have
Not every client comes after a breakup. Some sense interference while the relationship is still intact: a coworker too close, an ex reappearing, a friend stirring trouble. Protection work helps here too, strengthening the bond so outside pulls matter less. Our post protection spells for your relationship covers this in depth.
Questions about someone coming between you
Can you break up my ex and their new partner?
Baba Ali can loosen the new partner’s pull and turn your ex’s attention back toward you. Work is never done to harm the new partner.
Will the third person be hurt?
No. Clearing work lessens their hold; it does not harm them.
My partner’s family hates me. Can you help?
Often, yes. Clearing softens their influence without harming them, and time and steadiness help too.
What if my partner is having an affair?
Clearing can loosen the affair partner’s pull. Rebuilding trust will also need honesty, time and often counseling.
Should I confront the other person?
No. Confrontation usually pushes your partner closer to them and makes you look like the problem.
Is my partner’s new relationship just a rebound?
Often, especially if it started quickly after the breakup. The reading looks at how serious it is and how warm your bond remains.
Can you remove old spiritual work someone did on us?
Uncrossing and cleansing clear old work and the doubt it leaves behind, so new work can start fresh.
What if nothing changes?
Most clients see the first signs within 3–7 days. If you don’t, you get a full refund under the Refund Policy.
